For people who know me, it will probably come as no big surprise that I’m fussy. I like things to be done in a certain way, I’m particular about how I work, and I’m really, really fussy about my home and possessions.
I personally don’t think that there’s anything wrong with being slightly pedantic and taking pride in your home, but it does mean that I stress – a lot.
Builders, tradespeople, delivery companies and even friends & family (even Jan sometimes!) – having anyone in your home when you’re particular about how you like things to be can be difficult.
For me, this is partly down to some bad experiences – the window company that dropped a window down our stairs, our recent messy plasterer that completely covered everywhere with bits of plaster and general tradespeople who are just inconsiderate and not as careful as I’d like them to be.
Last week, we had part of our home photographed for a magazine (I’ll be sharing more details as soon as I’m allowed to!), and a few days later, we had a film crew in our home who were using our house as a location for part of their short film!
Needless to say, having eight complete strangers in our home was an interesting experience, and although both the magazine photographer & stylist, as well as the film crew, were respectful, it did make me stressed, and I couldn’t help wondering why I’d even considered letting a bunch of random people into my home.
All of this got me thinking about how fussy I am and about how dealing with people in your home can be a stressful experience. I guess I live in my own little bubble of carefulness, and most people just don’t live up to my expectations.
I know that sounds really harsh, and people can do what they want in their own homes, but in my home, I like things done in a certain way – and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that!
For some reason, actually implementing your rules when people are in your home is easier said than done, and it can be hard to tell people not to do stuff. When I’m at someone else’s home, I’m always happy to respect any rules they may have and totally understand if they like things to be done in a certain way, but weirdly telling people not to do things in my own home is difficult and I’ve not yet quite figured out a way to feel comfortable telling people what to not to do.
I don’t usually allow anyone wearing jeans (with evil little studs that could damage the leather) to sit on our Eames lounge chair. Super fussy? Probably. I just really don’t care. It’s my house, my rules.
And while I’m at it, here are a few more rules:
No placing items on the Eames lounge chair.
No placing items on the white glossy sideboard in the dining room.
No shoes (preferably) in the house.
No shoes (definitely) on the stairs and first floor.
No heals anywhere (they leave evil round dents in the wood floor)
No jeans on the velvet Chesterfield sofa (they tend to rub off and leave a blue shadow after time – we have a blanket on it when wearing jeans).
No touching walls.
No placing cups of tea (or anything else that’s hot) on surfaces without coasters.
No peeing stood up (preferable, but something I don’t really check on!)
No slamming doors (especially the front door with stained glass).
No drinking or eating on the Eames or Chesterfield.
No leaning ladders, tools, etc., against furniture (especially when I’ve asked you not to!).
Having builders in the house stresses me most of all (which is probably part of the reason we like to carry out home improvements ourselves). Whenever I hear a bang or the sound of something that could even in the slightest mean that something is getting damaged, I jump, and I’m the most unrelaxed person ever.
I’m not good at dealing with people in my home, but there are a few things that I try to do to calm myself.
I only let builders in who I totally trust (although even then, it doesn’t always go to plan). I like to schedule work so that I’m around to answer any questions and keep an eye on things when we have building work going on, and I equally try to let people get on with their work and not watch every minute.
My fussiness is also part of the reason I like to buy second-hand furniture. It’s already got that first mark, dent or scratch, and I know what I’m getting. It’s always the first mark that’s the worst!
Overall I still don’t think I’m too fussy and I really don’t think that there’s anything wrong with being protective of your possessions.
I’d love to know if you also stress when you have builders and tradespeople in your house. Do you have a way of dealing with builders and tradespeople? More importantly, do you have a way of not stressing when you have people in your home? Any tips are more than welcome!